Live Beyond Limitation

Recently, I have had a major chapter closing in my life and I wanted to take this opportunity to reflect on the beauty of human existence.

I want to start off by saying: for every new beginning, there must be an ending. And sometimes those endings can be so incredibly difficult to let go of due to the emotional attachments built. Sometimes we don’t want something to end, even though we know it must. We fear change because it is unknown.

We must remember however, that our path is in perfect divine order.

Every encounter we have in life serves its own unique purpose in helping us grow into our fullest potential. We all go through friendships, romantic relationships, family relationships, etc, and we all know that these rarely last forever. This is because they aren’t supposed to. They serve their exact purpose at their own time.

And when ending a relationship of any kind, I’ve noticed that people tend to focus on what they will miss and the sadness of it ending. Thus, forcing themselves to stunt their own personal growth by living in that past chapter/reminiscing, more than appreciating the relationship for what it was. We must remember that if something ends, it already served its purpose. It was truly meant to end at this time because you are now ready to step into the next chapter. When an ending comes, instead of wishing it back, try to ask yourself:

What did this experience teach me?

Also know that it is ok to morn for your loss. It’s okay to be sad and to miss things. Never suppress your feelings because I promise you, they will affect so much more in your life than is necessary. As time goes by, those feelings will continue to grow stronger and stronger the longer you attempt to avoid them. Feel at the times when you need to, without guilt or shame because sadness does not equal weakness, and nor does crying. In fact, showing emotions of ANY kind does not ever decrease your strength or worth. And whoever may have told you otherwise, (that crying= weakness, etc) clearly does not possess the strength to care for their own selves properly. Ironic isn’t it?

Here are some bullet points to remember:

• Make the choices that are best for you rather than trying to please others. This is your life.
• Surround yourself with people and activities that lift your spirit. Don’t just do things because you feel like you’re “supposed to.” Screw that. Follow your unique passions, whatever they may be.
• Be compassionate to yourself.
• When something in your life comes to an end, nothing has been truly “lost.”
• The sadness faced will soon be balanced with the joy of a new beginning.
• Nurture your own spirit rather than relying on others to bring it to life. (aka leaning on others for your happiness.)
• Time does not equal worth or value. A relationship you have can last for years, but if it’s not in your highest power, no amount of time will seem like enough.
• When you find yourself refusing to let go of the past or reminiscing too much, do something to bring you back to the present. Sit in nature and watch.
• Things don’t always go they way you expect them to. Usually the best things in life come when you least expect it. So have trust and know that you are allowed to step into the unknown.

Go in peace <3

~ McKenna